This is the 2nd of 3 post about Money & Marriage. Hope you enjoy the series.
Who’s On Your Board of Directors?
By Matt Bell
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” – Proverbs
My friend, Brad, calls it their annual “Dixie Fraley talk.” Once a year, he and his
wife, Nancy, meet with their personal board of directors, which includes their
CPA, attorney, and financial planner. Brad and Nancy reveal their balance
sheet, budget, giving plans for the year, along with plans to build their marriage
and encourage their adult children. Then they open it up for comments and
Brad got the idea after hearing a talk given by Dixie Fraley, widow of Robert
Fraley, a sports agent who died in the same plane crash that took the life of
professional golfer Payne Stewart. In the talk, Dixie described how Robert had
organized annual meetings with trusted advisors, and how those meetings had
left her well prepared to manage her financial affairs after Robert’s death.
Brad candidly acknowledges that prior to setting up their own board of directors,
he had been leaving Nancy out of important financial decisions, and in some
cases moving ahead with decisions she did not agree with. Not surprisingly,
finances had become a point of tension in their marriage. By submitting to the
counsel of others, Nancy gained a voice in their financial affairs. “The meetings
have made us more of a team,” Brad said. “Really, they’ve been a marriage
Members of Brad and Nancy’s board have challenged them on everything from
the number of hours Brad works to how much money they keep in reserve. Most
importantly from Brad’s perspective, if anything happens to him, Nancy is on a
first-name basis with a team of trusted advisors.
In Dixie Fraley’s talk, she mentioned that one million Americans lose their
spouses each year, and over 80 percent of women will become widows.
Financially, how prepared would your spouse be if something happened to you?
Does anyone else know your financial details, goals, and commitments? If not,
maybe it’s time to put together your own personal board of directors.
Matt Bell is the author of three personal finance books published by NavPress,
including his latest: “Money & Marriage: A Complete Guide for Engaged and
Newly Married Couples.” Matt leads workshops throughout the country and
blogs at www.MattAboutMoney.com.